Healthy Women: Spiritual and mental wellness in raging times of threatened ego.
“Have you realized today that you are one of 7.6 billion people in the world and they are almost all more capable of getting special attention than you are,” said an FPMag colleague to a group of people sitting at a lunch table in the campus cafeteria.
Yikes. We all need attention, don’t we. We feel afraid when unnoticed?
One’s ego helps with safety and security in the big bad world. When we don’t feel safe, we unconsciously allow our ego to make important decisions.
The result can be, “Me first, me only.” When you feel safe, you are not so compelled by fear to ruminate on the worry of losing something. Thus you concentrate on the big picture including empathy and love again in your view of life and as criteria for decision making. Ego can turn self awareness into an on and off thing. That’s not healthy.
Ego must live inside us in balance with other things. One of them is love.
After you think of the mistakes you have made in life you may wish to disallow your ego so much control.
Empathy is like a third dimension that invisibly exists between people. Liken this to a wire that carries feeling energy between people.
Along this conduit passes feelings. We feel how others feel and share our unspoken feelings the same way. Some people ask, “do you feel me?”. That’s a good question worthy of a good answer. Do you?
What does that have to do with “ego”? Ego sometimes steps on those ‘feeling wires of empathy’. A person who has become egotistical or whose ego is fighting for their self-esteem doesn’t sense others as well as they should. A person who is struggling with their “I Am-ness” in the face of perceived threats is blocking out the good parts of their world.
Andrew Cohen, who wrote Evolutionary Enlightenment: A New Path to Spiritual Awakening, said that:
“The secret of enlightenment is the absolute, unequivocal conviction that it exists.”
That should make you smile. Watch the news. We see this every day. Everyone is susceptible. Ego grabs hold of our thought processes and we may not be fully aware.
Know this and know yourself. Remember those ‘wires’ of empathy and try to feel the family, friends, colleagues and associates around you and make good decisions with them in mind.
If more people did that there would be fewer wars raging and millions fewer people starving. Be a leader and set the example for everyone around you, so their empathy and their love will also balance their egos. You will show them this leads to a healthier, longer and happier life.
Know ego’s presence, keep it in balance with love.